My default setting is to takeover, yell, focus on kids, and home. While half of these issues are ones I definitely need to work on and change the other seem harmless and in line with my current calling as a SAHM / Vice President of Child and Household Development.
However, honoring my husband as the Lord has directed requires that some of these default settings be deleted while the others need to be reprioritized. Yes, like you, I’ve read every book on prayer for husbands and homemaking. I’ve done my best to priorize my husband in seasons. Ladies, we aren’t called to be their help meet in seasons or when its most convienent.
The alignment of the home is Jesus, The Husband, The Wife, The Kids. Our honor and dedication should always be first to our relationship with Jesus, then to our husbands.
The order of the home determines the spiritual covering of the home. When Eve disobeyed God and led her husband to do the same, they fell out of the covering and alignment of what God had for them. I pray that we all do our part to keep our homes in proper alignment. Here are a few ideas on how:
- Use every opportunity to show him that he’s loved
Via sweet text message, phone call, or note on his steering wheel.
Ephesians 5:16-17 16 I mean that you should use every opportunity you have for doing good, because these are evil times. 17 So don’t be foolish with your lives, but learn what the Lord wants you to do.
2. Prepare for his needs
Pack his lunch for work at night if you know you wont have time in the morning.
Plan date nights that involve things he would enjoy (trading months is also helpful).
Make sure your day is light and as stress free (as possible) so that you can give him the best of yourself when he comes home.
(If possible) Finish your to do list an hour before he’s expected so that you have time to freshen up and relax.
A wise woman makes her home what it should be, but the home of a foolish woman is destroyed by her own actions.
3. Take care of YOURSELF
You cant pour from an empty cup. It is essential that in order to love him that you love yourself first. He fell in love with you; not just what you could do for him. SO… Keep up with your favorite hobby. Hang out with the right kind of girlfriends when you can. Get your hair done. Try a new shade of lipstick. Put a new outfit for yourself in the budget every now and then. Excersice- not so you just look good but so you will be around for your family!
And the second command is like the first: ‘Love your neighbor the same as you love yourself.’
(He’s your cloest neighbor!)
Lets change our default settings intentionally. Our new normal should and can involve love and honor for our husbands and ourselves! Make tomorrow great ladies!